It’s so easy. And almost fun. ‘Why didn’t you…?’ ‘If only you had….’ ‘Who left the milk sitting out?…’ Once we start firing blame-bullets at each other, someone’s going to get hurt. Sometimes it feels like we’re competing to win the prize of laying fault on the other person. Maybe it’s not my fault this […]
‘…DON’T FIX IT.’ That’s received wisdom and makes perfect sense, for our back garden gate. It’s wonky and the latch no longer connects, but who cares? A handy cord keeps kids and dogs securely locked in. Most of the time. Applying the ‘don’t-fix’ rule to relationships seems to work okay. We rock along in the […]
Imagine you are in the middle of telling a story when suddenly the person you are talking to jumps in and starts telling their own story. Just like that. You didn’t even finish what you were going to say… Communication leap-frogging is a form of interrupting. And it’s very annoying for the person who is […]
We recently trained several new couples from the UK, Malta and Spain …and what a great bunch of smiley, fun people they are! The couples were training to become FamilyLife Facilitators so that they can go back to their communities and make a difference. They worked hard but the photos below also show how much […]
We have always felt that we have a close relationship; we talk a lot and share our concerns and responsibilities together. This year we took on the challenge of running a ‘Together’ group. This should be fairly straight forward, we thought. In some ways yes, it has been as we have found ourselves having conversations […]
Facebook executive Sheryl Sandberg recently gave a moving tribute to her husband who died: “Dave was my rock … We had 11 truly joyful years of deepest love, happiest marriage, and truest partnership I could imagine.” The Guardian newspaper reported that President Barack Obama extended his sympathies to Sandberg and in a signed post on […]
Alasdair and Olivia have been married for nearly 25 years. Having moved house twelve times in that time, they are now settled back in Cambridge learning to become city folk after living in the Fens for many years. After eight years of “subfertility”, they had just been approved for adoption when along came their […]
Couples attending our Bournemouth ‘A Day Together’ event recently were very positive, with 100% rating it as either ‘excellent’ or ‘good’. Here’s a selection of comments: “Absolutely fantastic! Honest, down to earth speakers with helpful discussion times too. We both go home encouraged.” “A day well spent even for the strongest of couples.” “Worth every […]
Sally shares her story of struggling to conceive, the longings, questions and emotions she and husband, Graham, experienced. She explains how she wrestled with God but how ultimately her Christian faith helped her to find unexpected ‘blessings’ in their married life. Graham and I met twenty seven years ago when we were in our early […]
Are you drawn in, repelled by or intrigued by the hype surrounding the release of the film version of best-selling book: Fifty Shades of Grey? I’ve been reading lots of commentary recently and I don’t like the finger wagging brigade. There is something inside me that wants to do the opposite when someone says: “don’t […]
