Is your partner getting on your nerves? Are you finding that you’re having more arguments during lockdown? Or perhaps your husband/wife is driving you absolutely crazy?
Then hit “pause” for an hour and join us for fun and engaging conversation with Couples Talk on Zoom, hosted by Junior and Allison Angel.
Hear how Mark and Christine Daniel, authors, speakers and directors of FamilyLife are finding lockdown, and how they have learned to manage their conflict in healthier ways.
Find help, hope and practical encouragement.
Tune in with audio only if you feel like simply watching and listening. Or interact fully via the chat box, because there will be time for your questions to be answered.
Thursday 30 April
FREE entry, although a ticket is required. Grab your ticket HERE.
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Get to know your hosts: Junior & Allison Angel
AFTER THE EVENT
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- Have a daily debrief. This will help reduce stress and can help nip any issues in the bud. Take turns asking each other: ” What was the best thing about your day today? What was the most difficult part of the day? Is there anything I can do tomorrow to be a good marriage partner?” Listening partner just listens (try not to fix).
- Tackle issues quickly. If you leave things unsaid then they can fester and resentments build up. Also remember that your partner is not a mind reader. Tell your partner how your thinking and feeling, especially if you have an issue. Find a kind way of telling him / her if you have a problem eg “I felt … when you said/did… ” Listen to each other and work things out.
- Keep the problem as the problem! Whenever you encounter issues, be it a misunderstanding, unmet expectations, mistake, clash of differences etc try to keep the mindset that the problem is the problem NOT your partner. Your partner is NOT your enemy, he/she is your friend. Try to put the issue infant of you and tackle it as a team. Talk and listen well to understand each others viewpoints.
- When you talk help each other feel ‘safe’. Getting angry, defensive, judging and criticising are really normal reactions, but they won’t help your partner feel safe to be themselves or talk openly and honestly. Try to be self-controlled and take time-out if you need to, and commit to coming back to a discussion later.
Note: check out the Toucan Conflict Module for more on handling anger plus 4 steps for handling conflict in healthy ways.
Key resources mentioned
The Toucan App – is an online interactive series that sets up conversations around a range of topics: communication, conflict, loving, money and more. Individually enjoy the bite-sized video modules with stories from real couples and then interact with the exercises. Toucan will bring you together to talk as a couple to share what you’ve learned. Try it 5 minutes a day, it’s FREE. toucantogether.com (The Toucan Conflict Module will take you through managing your feelings and the 4 stages of resolving conflict in healthy ways).
We’ve launched a new Toucan Blog with great content from experts on topics that matter to you. Lots there about helping you through lockdown. Take a peek… toucantogether.com/blog You can subscribe for weekly updates.
Looking for a Bible-based resource? ‘Together’ helps you gather 4-5 couples to meet regularly to explore what the Bible says about marriage and pick up practical relationship tools. You can meet virtually – here’s how one couple did it…READ MORE
PREPARE / ENRICH – couples inventory (mentioned by Allison.) Find out more about it HERE You’ll need a ” prepare/enrich couple facilitator” to guide you through the process. CONTACT US if you want to know more.
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